Forget What You've Heard about Bridesmaid's Traditions

Take what you know about wedding traditions and let it go, times are changing. One hard and fast rule that’s definitely out the window? Symmetrical, same-gender wedding parties.

Your wedding is your day to celebrate, so why question who should or shouldn’t stand by your side on your big day?

This applies to everyone.  Your husband want his sister in the wedding but maybe you two aren’t that close? Let her stand on his side. Are you a guys' girl who doesn't have an abundance of gal pals to be your bridesmaids? Boys don't have cooties anymore so let them stand on your side. 

Whether or not you choose to have a mixed-gender party, another rule you can ditch immediately is the equal-numbered parties rule. Couples' idea that they need to have as many people stand with the groom as they do with the bride can end up causing more harm than good. Why cut your third sister from the line-up just because your husband-to-be only has two brothers? Why shouldn't your wife have all her sorority sisters just because you only have two friends you want by your side? Who says each person needs to have a partner to walk up the aisle with? 

While we're on the topic of breaking the bridesmaid stereotype, let's talk bridesmaids dresses and tuxedos. Repeat after us . . . "there are NO rules."  Want the women on the bride's side to wear matching dresses completely different from the women on the groom's side? Great. Want everyone on all sides to match perfectly? Great. Prefer to have everyone express their own individual style? Great. Want all the women to match and all the men to have their own look? Great. Whatever makes you happy.

If you're set on a single sex, symmetrical wedding party, there is absolutely nothing wrong with that if that's what works best for your wedding. But if the idea of having an same-gender, equal-number party creates stress, then let the idea go. It's YOUR wedding day, meaning it's all about you, your spouse-to-be, and what makes you two happy. The people surrounding you that day should be the ones that bring joy and love to your life, not the ones that fit a preset criteria. 

Article by: Emily Rochotte, Wedding Extraordinaire

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